It’s the soft power, wild grace that is the Divine Feminine, the energy that lives within you, within me, within us all.

For the past few thousand years, she has been repressed, cast into the shadows, and left without a safe place to fully express herself and her gifts. But she is on the rise. She is slowly waking up and returning to us all. Women (and men) around the world are hearing her call.

So if you found your way to this post, chances you’re curious about what this rise of Divine Feminine is all about, and there’s a part of you that wants to explore and embody her.

It’s simple. The Divine Feminine is an energy, which means she can’t be seen or heard, but she can be felt. She is the feminine that exists in all living beings on earth, including the ocean, moon, and trees. You may have heard of her as the Yin in the Yin-Ying, Shakti, Kali, or Gaia.

So when you think of feminine energy, what is it that comes to mind? Is it affection? Nurturing? Motherly energy? Creativity? Peace? Harmony? Inspiration? Sensuality? It is all the above and more. She is intuitive and fully open to receiving. Empowered within, honored and respected. Divinely connected to Mother Earth.

She is an energy that is wild, free, and untamed. She is unafraid to speak her truth, embrace her sexual nature, and show up fully and authentically. She trusts her intuition, allowing it to guide her. She lives in the cyclic rhythm of the moon and the climatic seasons.

This is what your true nature as a woman is. Even if this post doesn’t resonate with the woman you are today, stay open-minded about how this post applies to your peace and harmony as a woman. There is still plenty of time in your life to embrace just who that part of you is.

How we lost our connection to the sacred feminine

The Divine Feminine is one half of the whole since the Divine Masculine is the other half. Together, they create a world of harmony and balance. When you think of the world we live in today, can you picture this harmony and balance? Our women are exhausted from overworking and our men are not emotionally available. That is the world we live in today.

The Divine Masculine we see today is a toxic version of his true energy and light, sometimes known as the shadow side. This can be seen in the patriarchal systems and societies that run our world, which we have not only passively allowed to continue but have actively encouraged.

He has become aggressive, controlling, abusive, and egotistical, on a rampage for power and dominance.

We can see this in the way women have been oppressed and violated, similarly to the way our planet has been raped. We also see this in war, conflicts, and bombs that have plagued our people in the attempt to make everyone either a winner or loser. We see this in the way that land, ancient traditions and rituals, connection, and freedom were stolen from our ancestors, replaced with capitalism, hierarchy, and modern religion.

And the feminine has been forced to match his shadow with her own. She has become the victim, insecure, passive, inauthentic, co-dependent, and often manipulative. But in his truest, lightest form, the Divine Masculine has integrity. He is courageous, intellectual, and grounded. He is non-judgemental, independent, and mindful. And He matches Her in her lightest, truest form.

Awakening the Divine Feminine

Deep down, we all feel an imbalance in our lives. If not before, 2020 did something to us all, in some way or another. We’ve been fed the belief that more equals better. Exhausting work hours and stress have become normalized. And we’re stuck in our minds, disconnected from our bodies and our emotions.

We’re missing that connection to Her, the Divine Feminine. The part of us who naturally enjoys grace, ease, and peace.

The Divine Feminine has been reflecting, learning, and growing in the shadows all this time. It is that strength that’s helping us feel like a collective. It is that strength that is fuelling feminism, equality, more compassion and rights for animals, ethical and sustainable fashion choices, and practices like meditation and yoga to become mainstream.

Oh yes, she is rising. Are you ready to rise with her?

Activating the Divine Feminine within you

As I mentioned, the Divine Feminine has many sacred gifts to offer you in your life, regardless of what gender you are. These are just some of the ways awakening Her within you will benefit and enrich your experience here on earth:

Increasing your self-love and appreciation
A deeper connection with your body and sensuality
Being in tune with your rhythms and how they mirror Her
Strengthened inner guidance and trust
More creative energy
Being fully open to receive
Creating a deeper sense of community and partnership with others
Being able to be fully present in the moment
The ability to relax and let go
A feeling of wholeness

If any of these are speaking to you, and you want to call them into your life, it begins with awakening the Divine Feminine within you. Because she is energy, you might be a little confused about how to do this. So here are some practical ways to awaken Her:

1. Let’s examine the wounds surrounding femininity.

What are your current beliefs around femininity, and what does it mean to be a woman or man? And what traits did you see in the women and men around you that informed your beliefs?

You might have learned that women should be pretty, quiet, and “lady” like, that women should be submissive, run the household, and have the perfect body. You may have learned that women should be people-pleasers, swallow their feelings, and always be happy and smiling.

These are all common beliefs about what a woman should look and behave like, but what did you learn about femininity growing up? Your personal wounds around femininity may be quite different because of the women around you in childhood.

Perhaps you witnessed a family member being emotionally or physically abused by her partner, so you learned that women are weak or shouldn’t challenge men. Or maybe your cousin or a dear friend suffered from mental health issues, and you determined that women are unreliable and never happy.

Look to your own personal experiences, as well as the general negative beliefs you’ve inherited around femininity. Know that these are not a true representation of the Divine Feminine; rather, a shadow version.

Take some time to think and journal on these beliefs. Because the only way we can move forward and grow is if we let go of old limiting beliefs that no longer support the person we are striving to become. Shed those layers.

2. Commitment to self-love & self-acceptance.

If we haven’t yet learned to fully love ourselves, we cannot show true love and compassion to those around us. And genuine compassion for all beings (including yourself) is one of the ways to awaken the Divine Feminine within you.

Self-love is not a short journey because there is no quick ailment for re-writing years of self-judgment or childhood wounds. But if you commit to showing yourself love and acceptance every day, you will get there.

Begin small. Look in the mirror and say something kind and loving to yourself. Create space each day for some type of self-care. Meet your shadows, confront the negative thoughts you’re holding on to, and replace them with ones that serve and empower you. Surround yourself with people who are also committed to self-love and self-acceptance, people who inspire you and lift you up.

You cannot give love or compassion from an empty cup so always make sure you’re filling yours up each day.

3. Connection with your vessel.

Our vessels are constantly scrutinized and critiqued by outside eyes. Most of us begin to take on that pressure and judge our bodies for not looking a certain way. We begin to see our body as no more than a physical object.

Many of us have been purposely disconnected from our bodies over the past few thousand years in an attempt to tame us, control us, and disconnect us from our power.

Additionally, many of us hold huge amounts of stress, trauma, and abuse in our bodies; from this lifetime as well as past ones we’re not fully aware of. We must work to release and clear away this stuck energy so that we can reconnect and feel comfortable and at peace within ourselves.

So, how can you clear this energy and connect it to your body?

You can try body healing therapies like breathwork and massage. You can practice more self-care by nourishing your body with plenty of water and healthy foods and getting enough sleep each night. Move your body in ways that feel good to you, whether it’s walking, running, swimming, or something else. Practicing yoga can also be a wonderful way to be fully present and feel that body, mind, and spirit connection.

Sit and scan your body, slowly from the feet all the way up to your head; notice where there’s more tension and see if you can breathe into that space and let it go.

4. Connection with Mother Nature.

Our earth and all of nature are the work and creation of the feminine. The trees, flowers, wind, rain, and the soil beneath our feet.

The more time you spend in nature, the more connected you will feel to Her and her energy. Plus, it feels really good soaking up the fresh air, moving your body, and giving your eyes a break from your computer or phone screen.

If you have a garden, it can be a beautiful morning ritual to step outside first thing and plant your bare feet on the earth. Take some breaths here, do a few stretches if you feel called to, and notice the elements surrounding you. If the sun is shining, feel the warmth wash over your skin.

You can also do the same thing in the evening, but with the moon instead. Let the moonlight twinkle down on you, and feel yourself becoming more in tune with her natural rhythms along with your own.

And you can bring nature into your home more, through indoor plants and flowers.

5. Feel your feelings without judgment.

Women are generally more in touch with their feelings and speak openly about them with other women. Men tend to avoid meeting and addressing their emotions because they’re taught it’s weak or feminine to do so.

It’s not weak, but it is innately feminine, and our emotions are a source of Goddess wisdom. And even as women, we have often been taught to swallow or hide how we’re truly feeling and pretend that everything is okay when it’s not. We’re disconnected from the Divine Feminine. We can see this in a strong disconnection from our feelings in this masculine-driven world obsessed with the external.

We repress our emotions thinking they’ll disappear if we avoid thinking about them. Still, they only fester and swell in the darkness until we address them and the root of why we’re feeling that way.

So give yourself permission to feel all your feelings without judgment.

Regularly check in with yourself, and ask, “how am I feeling right now?” Try and assign a word to it: happy, excited, down, confused, mellow, anxious. Then release all judgment from this process because there are no right or wrong feelings, no good or bad feelings.

And try and find a safe space for you to discuss these feelings, whether with close friends, a women’s circle, a coach, or even a therapist. This will help you feel held and supported and create a feeling of trust around sharing some of your most vulnerable, intimate feelings.

Tuning in to and making sense of our feelings helps us understand ourselves better. We learn empathy and show compassion. We’re able to tap into the feminine energy that has been suppressed within and allow the feminine to flow freely through us again.

6. Receive comfort in speaking your truth.

Because we’ve been hushed and made to feel inferior as women for so long, this is often hard-wired into our brains without us knowing it. Boys learn from a young age that it’s okay to be loud and aggressive, while girls determine they need to be quiet and accommodating.

I, for one, have always struggled with speaking my truth and defending myself. I think this resulted from many things: being bullied at school and learning poor communication from watching my parents and my siblings.

And most of us aren’t taught how to communicate effectively. It doesn’t make it to the list of important things that we need to know at school, although it affects all the encounters and relationships that we have in our lives.

Do you know how to ask for what you need?
Are you able to speak up for yourself calmly yet firmly?
And do you know how to set healthy boundaries in your life?

When we keep our mouths closed and bury our truth and our needs, we become disconnected from our power. This is because we’re blocking the Divine Feminine wisdom that wants to flow through us.

When you feel discomfort within, and like something needs to come out, that’s nothing to fear. It’s a feeling, which you now know is not good or bad, and you have the power to present it. You have a duty to present it.

Whether that’s in your relationship and you feel like you’re not getting what you need. When you’re catcalled in the street, and you know you need to speak up. Your boss puts too much pressure on your shoulders, and you need to push back.

Don’t repress your emotions. Tune in to what you need and want, and have the courage to show up authentically and be present with it. This is how you begin to give your inner wisdom a voice.

When you’re connected to your Divine Feminine power, you will be comfortable with your feelings and needs. You will love and respect yourself enough to know you deserve to be listened to and have them met.

7. Figure out who you really are on a soul level.

People pleasing and wanting to fit in and avoid judgment are the main culprits for living a half-life and failing to figure out who we really are and what we really want from our lives. There are so many things we believe we have to do or should be doing. But have you ever stopped to think about what your true calling is here on earth?

As women, we often don’t even create time or space to think about this. We’re too busy taking care of everyone else in our lives and making sure they’re happy and loved and thriving. But it’s not selfish to turn your gaze inward and make sure you are happy and thriving. It’s not selfish at all; in fact, it’s vital.

Because this is how you’ll discover your soul’s purpose. This is how you’ll find the real you, underneath all of the programmings and inherited beliefs. And this is where the Divine Feminine can be found.

Maybe you’re in a job that isn’t where your true passion lies. Perhaps you’re in a relationship that you’ve outgrown. Or possibly you’re not giving yourself time to explore all the interests and hobbies that your soul is desperate to experience.

Give yourself permission to say no to things you no longer want and yes to new things you do want. Give yourself permission to play and travel and be; and see if anything stirs your soul. Give yourself permission to be selfish sometimes, and figure out who you really are.

Because contrary to what you’ve been taught, you are not here just to be someone’s wife, mother, carer, or co-worker. You are your own person, with your own gifts and your own path to pave here.

8. Honor and explore that sexual side of you.

Our world has a really fucked up relationship with sex and sexuality right now.

Female sexuality makes most people uncomfortable—women and men—because patriarchy has engineered it that way. Sex, in general, is seen as taboo. And we learn that from the way it’s not openly spoken about and how adults clam up when we mention it as children. We learn to feel shame around sex, our genitals, and our sexual desires.

Worse still, sex has been ripped away from its sacred nature and re-packaged and sold to men as a commodity to be purchased. We see that in an endless supply of porn, strip clubs, and prostitutes. Women and men learn to “perform” in bed in a way that caters to his needs but often completely ignores hers. The female body feels like an object rather than a powerful divine vessel that nurtures and creates life.

To access the full power of the Divine Feminine requires you to explore and embrace your sexuality.

Here are some helpful questions to ask yourself today:

Am I confident asking for what I need sexually?
Do I know what I like or want, or need?
How do I feel about my body, my breasts, and my vulva?
Am I able to speak up and set boundaries around what I do and don’t feel comfortable with in bed?
Am I able to fully receive pleasure?

The answers to these questions will likely bring up feelings you’ve buried or didn’t even know existed in your subconscious. And discovering these feelings and attitudes, and figuring out where they came from, is how you can begin to nurture your sexuality back to a state of wholeness. Spend more time with your body, getting to know your anatomy and how you like to be touched. You may also want to try using a yoni egg to connect deeper to the sacred sexuality that resides within you and empower yourself.

9. Slow down and just be.

Our world is currently built on masculine energy, which encourages us to do more, be more, and have more.

This has led to a world that is go go go, rushing around all the time, and believing that you always need to be busy doing something. In contrast, feminine energy is about being rather than doing. It’s about slowing down, being receptive and reflective, and being present in the moment. And we all could do with slowing down a little more.

Maybe that looks like journaling or writing for you. Maybe it’s being in nature more like we already spoke about. Or maybe it means switching your phone off as soon as you get home and not turning it on again until the next morning. Maybe it’s sitting and doing ten minutes of meditation in your day. Maybe it’s leaving work on-time more often. Or maybe it’s as simple as taking a five-minute tea break or taking a few deep breaths wherever you are right now.

Our brains are wired to “do,” so you’ll probably find it hard to switch frequencies and allow yourself to just be. Your brain may try and convince you you’re wasting time or being lazy, but don’t believe it.

10. Trust your intuition.

Your intuition as a woman is like your sixth sense.

It’s a Divine Feminine gift that is more potent and present in women than men. It’s the opposite of logic, which is a masculine quality. Since we are a society that values logic above all else, we have become disconnected from our inner voice.

We live in our heads rather than our hearts, making it difficult to differentiate between fear and intuition. And some of us have been led to mistrust our intuition or devalue it because it’s “irrational” and “illogical.”

But tapping into and trusting your intuition will help you navigate your life with much more ease, grace, and confidence. You’ll just know the right decision to make, without knowing how you know. You’ll feel it in your body before you know it in your mind.

Regardless of how tuned in you are to your intuition right now, there are practices you can follow to begin strengthening that muscle:

Meditate
Practice yoga
Learn and use tarot and oracle cards
Journal and connect with your higher wisdom
Channel from your own divine guides
Exploring your dreams and their symbolic meanings

11. Create sacred space in your life.

Ritual and sacred ceremonies used to be a way of life for women in ancient times.

There was a greater sense of community amongst people. Women of all ages would regularly come together to converse, share, or celebrate; on new and full moons, while bleeding and on the turn of the wheel.

Sacred ceremonies and rituals act as a bridge between the two worlds: earth and the spirit. Your fears, anxieties, and shadows can be met and softened with compassion and the great power of a circle of women. And the feminine within you craves to be in beautiful sacred spaces that have been created with pure intention and love.

Creating ritual and sacred space in your life can be simple. Light a candle before you meditate or practice yoga. Take a bath. Make a sacred altar for yourself, however small or grand you like, with divine objects that speak to you.

Celebrating the new moon with releasing and intention setting, or the full moon by dancing and singing in the moonlight. Or perhaps you attend a women’s circle near you, or you host your own.

12. Remember you have always been whole.

It’s important to remember, that although the feminine has been suppressed for years, she is still here. She can never be destroyed. She will continue to be within you, as she is within me and every being on the planet.

The dominant masculine that resides within you, and almost everyone else, tries to pretend it is whole and complete on its own. But it never can be. Because like I said at the beginning of this blog, the Divine Feminine and Masculine were created as two halves of a whole. The Yin and the Yang.

Regardless of what goes on around us, we have the power to embrace and express the Divine Feminine with us. We can act with compassion, promote peace, live in abundance, nurture ourselves and our earth, and slow down so we can live a richer, fuller life. This is the challenge we face as individuals, as well as a collective.

It’s that soft power and wild grace that is on the rise.

Everything You Need to Know About the Divine Feminine in 2022