A Self-Love Ritual You Need to Know About

Most of us look for love in all the wrong places.

Meaning that most of us, subconsciously or not, look to others around us to love us deeply and unconditionally. The ironic thing about that is that most of us don't even love ourselves in that way.

Who can give you what you don't believe on a deep level that you even deserve from yourself?

And how unsettling is it to think that we would need to depend on any love that is outside of ourselves?

A self-love ritual will help you connect, heal and come back into alignment with all that you truly are.

Through ritual, mindful practices, and intentional self-care, we can sense and understand our unique energy. This energy becomes the pathway to the well-being of the mind, body, and soul.

If you feel like you need a little love, send some your way with this simple ritual.

Begin by putting a few drops of your favorite ritual oil in the palm of your hands. Rub your hands to warm the fat a bit, then bring your palms to your nose to inhale the scent.

Take a little more oil and anoint your third eye (the space between your brows) and your heart chakra (right at the center of your chest). Take one more inhale of your oil, then proceed to your Meditation.

Start to center yourself by closing your eyes and taking three deep breaths. Take an inhale for four counts, holding for four counts, and exhaling for four counts. Expand your lungs while breathing in so that you can feel the fresh air flowing through your entire body, allowing you to relax and let go. Then allow your breath to return to normal. You are just letting your breath move at its own pace without forcing anything. 

Now visualize a door. Walk through the door into a room. This room should feel comforting and beautiful. It should be decorated entirely to your taste and have everything you love inside. Look around this room and see how gorgeous it is. Allow yourself to soak up the safety and comfort of this space.

When you’re ready, look to the furthest corner in the room, and you will see a woman (or a man if you are male, or any gender you identify with most). Observe her from afar. Notice what you like about this person. 

Maybe she appears to be very beautiful, or you like what she’s wearing. Does she seem to have gorgeous hair or a warm smile? Observe her for several moments until you point out everything you admire or like about her.

Now walk up to the woman. As you get closer, you begin to notice how familiar she looks. Keep going until you are standing right in front of her. Now that you can see her clearly, notice that the woman is you. She is your heart chakra, and she has been waiting for you.

Bring to mind all the positive things you say about her from a distance. Play those thoughts again as you stare at your face and see the beauty you thought belonged to someone else. 

Take several moments to be in appreciation of yourself and what you have to offer. Say each of these positive qualities to your heart chakra so that she can hear how loved and appreciated she is.

Admire her, releasing any need to feel humble. This is your heart chakra, a piece of you who deserves admiration and praise.

Please do this for as long as you need, but I must warn you, this can become very emotional as you begin to accept your inner and outer beauty. After you’ve said everything, you need to thank her for receiving these compliments then hug her.

Yes, you are embracing yourself. Feel you loving you. Feel you showing affection to YOU.

Feel yourself providing comfort for your inner self that has been waiting to be seen by you for so very long. Let her know how much you care and that you want to love her with all of your heart. Hug her like you’re afraid to let her go. Hug your heart chakra for as long as you need.

When you are done, tell your heart chakra that you know she is here and that you will not abandon her again. Likewise, you now know where she is, and you can return to this room at any time.

You always have someone who loves you unconditionally, and you are never alone.

Say your last goodbyes, then turn around and walk through the room and back through the door. Begin to bring your awareness back to your body by taking three deep breaths. As you breathe, start to wiggle your fingers and toes. Listen to any sounds nearby. Once your awareness is in your body, open your eyes. 

I recommend following this with a self-love bath to pamper and nourish your physical body.